Do We Need to Control Our Fears?

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Posted by Jill Whalen | Posted in Psychology, Spirituality, Thought | Posted on 30-08-2017

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Do We Need to Control Our Fears?

I’ve seen so many articles that tell us we should push past our fears and/or try to control them. While that’s satisfactory short-term advice, it’s not a long-term solution.

It’s simply not possible to control fear.

Fear always comes from thought in the moment. And thoughts are not under our control. Read the rest of this entry »

Am I the Only One Who Feels This Way?

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Posted by Jill Whalen | Posted in Psychology, Thought | Posted on 28-06-2017

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What wise or stupid thing can man conceive that was not thought of in ages long ago?

–Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Faust, Part 2, Act II, The Gothic Chamber

Am I the Only One?For the past month or so, I’ve been hanging out at a few Facebook anxiety groups. A common question I see there is: “Am I the only one who experiences X, Y, or Z? Or alternatively, “Am I the only one who thinks these things and feels this way?”

The answer, of course, is a big, fat NO, as evidenced by all the others who join in and comment about their similar experiences. Read the rest of this entry »

Why are We so Mean to Ourselves?

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Posted by Jill Whalen | Posted in Psychology, Thought | Posted on 08-03-2017

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Mean Voice in Our Head

“You’re so dumb!” 

“You should know better.”

“You’re no good at that.”

“What makes you think you’re so great?”

Would you pay attention to and believe someone who said those things to you on a regular basis?

Probably not!

So why do you listen to and believe that voice in your head that says them?

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Second Guessing, Jumping to Conclusions and Filling in the Blanks

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Posted by Jill Whalen | Posted in Psychology, Relationships, Thought | Posted on 02-11-2016

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…Or How we Create our Unique Personal Reality

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Jumping to Conclusions and Filling in the Blanks

What would you do if you found out that everything you think about life, other people and even yourself is at best, a good guess?

As human beings, that’s exactly how we operate.

Ponder this…

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Being Authentic: Why You Should Never Hide Behind a Fake You

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Posted by Jill Whalen | Posted in Relationships, Thought | Posted on 01-06-2016

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Are You Hiding Your True SelfWhy is it so hard for us to be our true authentic self?

My guess is fear.

It seems that our authenticity gets “beaten” out of us when we’re little. Between getting teased as kids for being our wacky selves and our parents berating us to “act like everyone else,” slowly but surely we start to create a public persona that’s considered socially acceptable. We believe if the rest of the world knew how crazy, weird, dumb, silly or whatever we are deep inside, that there’s no way in hell they could like us–let alone love us. Read the rest of this entry »

What, Me Worry?

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Posted by Jill Whalen | Posted in Thought | Posted on 28-07-2015

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What Me Worry?

© Mad Magazine

You know what’s weird? Worry.

I can’t remember even one instance where something I worried about ever actually occurred. This isn’t to say that it’s never happened, but the fact that I can’t think of any tells me that my worry has a really bad track record! Read the rest of this entry »