Posted by Jill Whalen | Posted in Spiritual Teachings, Spirituality | Posted on 04-29-2014
Inevitably when interacting with people, they will say or do things you may not like. Your feelings about the situation are essentially judgments about the people involved. Each judgement you make contributes to the way you think (and therefore feel) about them. For whatever reason, our ego minds have the need to classify and categorize people; however, that doesn’t mean our classifications are true. They’re simply our thoughts about that person at that time.
While most of us can’t stop negative judgments from occurring, because they’re only thoughts, they don’t need to stay with us forever. In fact, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t be able to start each day fresh from the previous day’s judgments.
What if each night you decided to wipe your judgement slate clean?
Simply go back through your day and think about the people who said or did things that brought up negative feelings in you. Make a mental note of the judgement you made, and remind yourself that your thoughts about that person don’t define them. That’s it! When you wake up the next day, you’re starting off with a brand new clean slate.
Doing this provides you with the opportunity to have a whole new relationship with people each time you’re with them. You’ll have no past perceptions tripping you up and causing you to assume things that may or may not be true. While this is probably easier to do with people whom you’ve just met rather than those you have a long history with, there’s no reason why it shouldn’t work with everyone in your life. Of course you may have to go back a lot farther than just 1 day to “erase” your judgment of those you’ve known a long time, after all, you’ve had quite a long time to form specific opinions about them.
To be honest, I’m talking about this from a theoretical perspective rather than something I’ve been working on myself. But in theory it should work because thinking is not reality. It is only OUR reality at the moment. Just because we think a person is a certain way due to something they did or said, i.e., we judged them to be that way, doesn’t mean that they actually are that way. It is no more than our perception of them.
What do you think? Does this even make sense? Have you had similar thoughts? Have you ever tried something like this?
Please let me know in the comments below!