Posted by Jill Whalen | Posted in Meditation, Relationships, Thought | Posted on 04-06-2016
Tags: 3 Principles, Effortless Success, Wellbeing
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How’s life treating you these days?
Is it fun? Is it peaceful?
Or is it tedious and hard?
If you answered the latter, what’s making life such a struggle for you?
Perhaps the state of your health or that of a loved isn’t what you’d like it to be. Or maybe your job feels extremely stressful or boring. Or your relationship(s) sucks and/or you’re struggling to find Mr. or Ms. Right. Maybe you lack the funds to do the things you really want to do.
Do any or all of those ring true to you?
What if you knew that nothing in the outside world can make you feel bad?
That’s correct. Poor health, “bad” relationships, lack of money and a crappy boss are not what’s making you feel shitty, no matter how much it feels like they are.
The only thing that makes you feel lousy (or happy, or anything) is your state of mind. It’s the Thoughts about what goes on around you that causes your experience of it.
All of it.
This is not to say that those crazy, yukky things are good and you should enjoy them. It’s more to say that you can be peaceful and enjoy life moment to moment, regardless of your circumstances.
Thought (with a capital T) is what goes through our heads all day, every day. Because each of us has our own unique set of Thoughts, we experience life in our own unique way. We’re kinda like snowflakes in that no two of us will experience any given situation the same way.
This is the reason why someone like Viktor Frankl could survive in a concentration camp and come out relatively unscathed mentally, while many others could not. His state of mind (Thoughts) created a different experience than those around him. While he was in the same horrific situation as everyone else, he knew his survival depended on making the best of it on a moment to moment basis. In other words, the way he thought about his situation, enabled him to see and find whatever crumbs of goodness there were. Which in turn, kept him sane.
That, of course, is an extreme example. But it’s a good one because it shows us that if even one human being can find relative peace in the worst situation imaginable, then whatever is going on in our own lives, should surely be a piece of cake.
And yet it often isn’t.
Life is not meant to be difficult. While shit’s always gonna happen, it’s how we think about it that will determine how we feel. If we can remain in a high state of mind even when it hits the fan (or at least soon after it hits) we can not only survive whatever happens to us, we can experience many enjoyable moments along the way.
This is when life gets fun and peaceful.
When we are able to see the good in life regardless of what’s going on around us, it becomes like a game. Everything we do moves us in the direction of what inspires us. And when we’re inspired, life becomes effortless. Because of the way we’re thinking while inspired, even though we may be working extremely hard, it doesn’t feel like it. It just feels fun!
Look again now at how your days unfold.
Are they fun? Are they easy and peaceful?
If not, what or whom are you blaming for your bad luck or tough days?
When we let go of blame, we see the world and our life in a whole new way.
Can you see even a tiny bit how your thoughts might be playing a part?
Please note that I’m absolutely not saying that we can or should try to change our thoughts. It’s not possible as a long term strategy. It’s about Knowing that underneath all of our thoughts is true Peace. It’s there always. In good times and bad. Which means it’s always accessible.
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