Are you doing any of the exercises in the workbook?

(sp of judgement/judgment – uh – because Americans love having variety and choices?)

I just went through a similar circumstance with a family member and it’s not the first time with her.

This time I was not crushed when she ate my lunch because I went into the interaction with no expectations. I had already done the forgiveness work and put away the judgment.

I’ve found Ho’oponopono (a Hawaiian healing technique) to be helpful.

(As an aside, why the heck to we Americans take the ‘e’ out of the spelling of judgment?!)

I think with the case of your brother, it could be that just because you were at a place of forgiveness, doesn’t mean that he suddenly was. If you can forgive him now for what you saw as a rebuff and keep your new slate clean about your feelings towards him, it’s possible that some day things could change between you. Or maybe not. Either way, you’ll always have your good feelings about the person and situation.

This article really hit home when I read it yesterday and it’s been on my mind ever since.

Judgement, especially negative judgement, is a major topic in the World of Woo Woo”.

As negative judgement seems to work in tandem with forgiveness, it’s usually a double whammy when either of these subjects are discussed.

I love your idea and think that from a “spiritual teachings” perspective it’s a much bigger concept than you might realize.

See, negative judgement of people/situations robs us of moments in our lives we can never get back as the act of judging steals our awareness away from the present moment.

Judging a person/situation negatively requires that we live in the future and past rather than the ‘now’.

Additionally, if we are experiencing negativity in a given moment, the mental clicking of the Unfriend or Thumbs Down icon puts our attention in a different space than where we really are. So, our ‘judgment’ of that situation/person is not accurate anyway because we couldn’t see it/them holistically.

IMHO, your premise is beautiful because if we train ourselves to ‘wipe the slate clean’ each night, the surely we can work up to wiping the slate clean during our waking hours as well.

Once we’ve mastered both, then we can move to a space where we do not judge at all. Then we can fully, truly experience the people and situations in our lives because we are in that moment and no other.

Thanks for article Jill. It’s a wonderful reminder that judgment is…dang it! See? I was about to pass a judgment!

I gotta get better at this spiritual enlightenment stuff. Guess I’ll have to keep reading your site!